The Power of Perspective

Today I have noticed the word ‘perspective’ several times so have been triggered to use this as the subject of today’s article.

There are so many ways this is important, but I only want to focus on a couple here

Identifying Goals

I have found that there are some clients who will happily set simple goals but become reluctant to look at the important longer-term ones because they are not sure if it is absolutely perfect – something better might come along and therefore they will change their mind and fail.

Well, unless there is someone out there who can see their own future, we have no idea what might come up tomorrow let alone in a year or two, but if you don’t set exciting goals you will probably not be motivated beyond a day or two of action.

The way I see it – goals are a medium to use to help you move forward towards an exciting goal but you have to realise that at the instant you leave your starting point our perspective starts to change and you can now see or experience things in a different way. 

Therefore, I would never say a goal is set in stone – it is there to help you achieve the best outcome for you and that the end point can be a moveable feast as long as you are consistently moving in the right direction and any deviation is positive and deliberate and NOT an excuse. 

So, if my clients want to make a change to their plans, we talk through the why and check it is not the inner-critic sabotaging earlier decisions, and if it’s an honest move and a better option than previously we do the satnav dance of ‘recalculating the route’.

‘Go as far as you can see; when you get there you will be able to see further.’ – Thomas Carlyle

Self Perception

Another important way perspective can help enormously with your self confidence is to make sure you talk to other people and find out from them how they see you.

When I was going through some difficult times and needing to turn my life around, I had lost both my confidence and a sense of who I really was.  In my head I would describe myself as a quite pathetic mouse who no-one ever noticed.

As luck would have it – or in an inspired intuitive move (which perspective should I be using here?), I spoke to an old school friend and asked why she and another girl were friends with me at school as they were such big and confident characters themselves and I saw myself as so different. 

The instant reply was ‘Gina, we would have destroyed each other without you, you were the calm in the centre of every storm’!

Talk about great feedback – I instantly changed my perspective on the characteristics that I had been seeing as negative and realised that quite didn’t equate with pathetic or small, it could be strong and supportive.  It was a complete turning point in how I saw and valued myself, making all the difference to how I viewed a new career and gave me to confidence to believe in myself.

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